Saturday, December 31, 2011
My ridiculous shenanigans that went on when I was in my early twenties. packing my bags and moving across the world to party, see new land and meet new people. I was such a different person then. I was trouble waiting to happen! and I loved not knowing what the next day brought me or those around me!!! I delighted in the chaos that surrounded me. I chose to let certain people into my life who were were to teach me about myself, and unfortunately those people were dangerous for my spirit because by the time I realized I'd been sucked in to this place I didn't want to be, it was a long and painful feat to pull myself out from under that blanket of fear and doubt. Would I become the person I knew I had in me, the person I wanted to be, or even could I?
I found myself living alone for the very first time, and that was so terrifying. I always had someone to create chaos with, someone to fight with, someone to take care of me so I didn't have to grow up and take care of my own shit. What the hell was I to do with myself??? So I started random projects to occupy my time. I think that was the Christmas that I sewed PJ pants without a pattern until I got them right and gave them to my sister for Christmas. Then I picked up a paint brush for the first time in my life and put color to canvas. Hours upon hours, all night events of chillin' in my undies, drinking coffee, listening to Blondie, dancing like a maniac, and laying drop upon drop of paint into this tree I now call my life tree. As though I was adding a layer of protection for myself with each tiny dot.
I started regarding my life as a garden that needed to be taken care of, and once in a while, weeding out the bad. When I finally decided to allow new people in my life, I had some very bad misses. Bad dates, and a few crazies that were energy suckers, so I had to pluck them out to make room for better things to grow. Also there were a couple of great people who were my biggest cheer leaders, old friends and new. They gave me shelter while I licked my wounds, picked myself up, and dusted myself off.
And then there was this man.
I had been working so hard to peel off the layers of bullshit, and he was already there. One big difference between him and I was that to get to the heart of who I am was a complicated maze. He went through life taking his lumps, learning his lesson, and moving on, taking care of his shit as it came, and making his own happiness. Now why was that so hard for me to do? probably because I'm a woman and we tend to make things harder that they have to be, actually I KNOW that I make things harder than they have to be. I knew that if I wanted to be with this man, I had to drop the drama. He was and still is, uncomplicated in the best kind of way. He says what he means, does what he says, he believes in kindness and karma, and has the most contagious laugh... so I peeled the drama off my back and there I was, stark naked, nothing to hide behind, and nowhere to go but to stand up tall, and just be me. Liberation! I thought it would be so difficult to drop the drama, but it has been the easiest thing! the first thing that has been simple and un-complicated for me, and I really love just being, and not pretending.
So when we decided to embark on the journey of parenthood, we knew that life would forever be different. People say that you're never totally prepared for parent hood, and those people are right! It's scary and exciting and terrifying and heart wrenching, and joyful and amazing all wrapped up in one. I know realize that it is all those layers that I have peeled back that made this journey of parenthood possible for me, and without the journey, and learning what I did about myself, I would not survive this new gig called parenthood. My son challenges my patience and strength in will power every day. He makes me cry tears of joy and laugh uncontrollably. He is my heart. For the first time last night, at 4am, I was awoken to this big kick, or an elbow, and it's starting to feel real, I'm having another baby. we are to be the parents of TWO kids!!! I am SO thank-ful that my journey has brought me to this place, and that I am more ME than ever, or I'd loose myself in motherhood, and just be someone's mama, and not ME!
I'm so blessed, so thankful, and SO excited to complete this family of mine!
So those are the ramblings of a crazy sleep deprived mama at 4am, hope I didn't bore you!
Oh, and here's a new photo to satisfy all the belly lovers!
Friday, December 16, 2011
Sunday, October 30, 2011
So it's true, I'm harvesting a tiny gremlin who is picky and doesn't like much foods but none the less we're SO excited!!!
It seems like so long ago. That we found out we were pregnant again... So here we go with the update!
That's all for now folks. Much love to you all
R + J squared
Friday, October 7, 2011
We recently bought a new trailer!!! And we found a lovely campground that had the perfect slide for the little dude. He'd never gone down a slide by himself but I figured how far is he gonna fall? So I let him giver and giver he did! Didn't matter how cold it was in the morning he still wanted to be outside to play on that slide
Sunday, October 2, 2011
Monday, September 12, 2011
The subject of hair has been a difficult one for me. I would have been happy to just let him grow his hair out until he's old enough to tell me he wants it cut, or he grabs scissors and cuts it himself as kids sometimes do, I know I cut my brothers' hair! hehehehe. He had this beautiful strawberry blonde hair with perfect soft curls in the back and the thought of cutting them all of made me a little sad because I knew he wouldn't look like my baby anymore, he'd look like a boy. I miss that peaceful little baby that was content to lay on the couch with me and let me nibble on his cheeks all day. Then one day he quit snuggling me because there was this big world out there to explore and then he stopped nursing and now he runs and won't give me a kiss unless it's bed time and NOW.... he's officially a big boy with his big boy hair cut, but still, he's beautiful...
Friday, September 9, 2011
|Macy calls me Auntie Doodles|
|hanging out with Macy and Connie|
|Jake & Auntie Mel|
|running to keep up|
|let me in!|
|busted eating whipping cream!|
|time for giggles|
|he tried so hard to be grumpy but eventually she cracked him!|
|took a while to get them all looking at the camera but I got it|
|upside down Kaila|
|high 5 uncle Ryan!|
|bubba's new buddy|
|In Vancouver with Great Grandpa Ivan|
|of course there were bubbles!|
|and lots of strawberries were devoured!|
|first ride on the ride em' with Grama Bunny|
|and of course there was a TON of smoked meat!|
|My Auntie Jodie|
|Uncle Riche was the best play mate!|
|having a nap with my abuelo|
|riding his truck with his little teddy|
|hanging with Bhodie on his bday party!|
|yummy daddy, let me share with you|
|Having a snack with cousin Dylan|
|camping in the tent trailer!|
|bath time with Cousin Dylan|
|helping mama & Auntie Sherisse weed the garden|
|mmmmm raspberry smash!|
|taking care of business|
|a little bit of kung fu!|
|navigating the deck|
|hanging with my neighbor friends|
|playing in the yard|
|and of course vacuuming, he LOVES it!|